Self Portrait with Monkey
1940 by Frida Kahlo
i pray to thee, your highness, queen satan, to eliminate the oppressing classes
What bullshit happened in the “Tumblr Left” this time?
A woman asking the man for consent is a GREAT why to communicate her own so he doesn't have to stop every step of the way and ask if she's okay nervously out of fear of raping her. →
Seriously, can we stop implicitly shifting all sexual responsibility to the male?
Well, the problem is, the problem stems from the fact our culture shifts sexual responsibility onto the female to begin with.
Notice the response to when a girl is raped. The questions…
There is absolutely NO responsibility on he part of the woman to gain consent from men. Ever.
Doing so also implicitly communicates their own consent.
Doing this kills two birds with one stone.
The person above you is equating rape with sex which is extremely problematic. The politics involved with rape after it happens are significantly different than the politics involved with gaining consent during sex. A lot of it does have to do with this hunter-prey social narrative our society promotes in terms of sex. In a sexual encounter and I guess a hunt, the man would have assumed consent because he is pursuing the woman or animal and the pursuit implies intent. The woman in this type of hunter-prey mentality is a perceived victim or prey in all sexual encounters so it is assumed women don’t want sex from the predatory men so they need consent at all times. It’s shitty how in mainstream society men have implied consent until proven otherwise in sexual encounters and women have implied non-consent until proven otherwise. This type of hunter-prey narrative is the one most feminists promote because it keeps men in check more but it is still harmful.
With rape, I feel like in mainstream society there is a different narrative but it is similar. There is still this hunter-prey idea being promoted but the idea is that men are uncontrollable beasts when it comes to sex or rape so when they do rape, it isn’t their fault. The hunter-prey narartive when it comes to women says that they provoke men by doing something like drinking or wearing something. They are a victim or prey but one that looked exceedingly tasty so this provokes the monster hunter man to do the raping.That is rape culture and it is terrible but also comes from the hunter-prey narrative as well.
You have 2 sides of the same coin so I think we just need to get rid of this idea of sex as a hunt or conquest. Anybody can look for sex and everybody should be actively consenting. Implied consent is a harmful idea and both men and women should be thinking about consent because it makes for better sex and if you don’t do it you are a rapist.
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I have been reading up on Psychodynamic Theory and it is extremely gender essentialist and cissexist. I get that Freud was around in from the late 1800s to early 1900s but still penis envy makes me cringe. Anyways, I was just wondering are there any psychodynamic theories that aren’t cissexist so trans people can be included in psychodynamic analysis in respectful ways?