Being attracted to a man of a different race does not mean you have internalized racism/self hate.
Being attracted to a man of a different race because you don’t like men of your own race means you have internalized racism/self hate.
There is nothing collectively wrong with black men as a whole.
If you hear stereotypes about black men and apply that to black men as a whole then you have internalized racism.
If you ever say “you’re not attracted to black men” ask yourself why. More than likely its going to be because of the stereotypes against black men.
No, i’m not telling you to go out and date a black guy just because, date whoever you want. But to exclude a whole race, you’re own race, based off of stereotypes is internalized racism.
Curious, is there a difference between a useful generalization about members of your own group and a stereotype?
The way one of my professors used to say it is a stereotype is a generalization that is not based in fact and is very hard to change while an ideal type is a generalization that is based around evidence and can change if enough evidence is shown to disprove it. Maybe that helps?
I get annoyed by fellow Social Justice people (usually White people) who try so hard to be good at Social Justice. No matter how good you are at being an SJW, oppression still exists and will continue to exist. Support marginalized populations but be a genuine person.
One thing I love about the Jewish Bible is the Jewish interpretation that God made the Jews walk in the desert for 40 years after the Exodus from Egypt so that the old generation born in bondage could get old and die and new generations could be born that were free. It shows that rabbis understand the importance of socialization and that kind of shows that an oppressed people can get out of oppression and move away from toxic internalized ideologies. That gives me hope kind of.
A problem I am finding with social work in MSW classes is that the professors and other social workers stress the importance of self care because we have a huge workload. I think that is positive but they always stress that we have to be the ones to find the time for self care for ourselves. That just seems kind of mean and victim blaming. We are stressed and short on time but then we are expected to find more time to take care of ourselves beyond that? Then the logic goes that if we don’t find time for self care and break down it is our fault, not the social work system or the other stressors in our lives that don’t care about or wellbeing. Would it be too much to have a certain amount of self care time set in our schedules every week by our employers and professors so we don’t burn out so quickly?